I've been thinking a lot these last few days about how much I have grown since arriving in Bali. In some very clear ways, I think I have worked through some clutter and arrived on the other side a much stronger woman.
Today's list is one of reflection and of taking note of the ways that I have grown.
1. I have learned to recognize my self worth, and understand that I am a very valuable human being. We all are; we just don't all yet know it.
2. I grew a back bone and learned to stand up for myself. I have always been a warrior for the underdog, my friends, my family, my son. Now, I am a warrior for me.
3. I listen to, and act upon, my gut instinct. In the past, I acknowledged my gut instinct, often muzzled it, and then did what was best for others. I paid the price. Now I tune in, listen, and take action.
4. I have learned that I have to do what is right for Edem and I above all else.
5. I have embraced my inner human-being; I have learned to be more open and talk about my fears and moments of failure. It feels great to get it out there, and others tend to open up more when I do.
6. I have accepted the fact that I am not capable of wearing a super hero cape all the time. Even Superman takes his off now and again.
7. I have learned the importance of ME time, and valuing that as equally as the time that I invest in my work. You know what? The world doesn't fall apart when I don't get everything on my To-Do list accomplished, but I do fall apart when I don't make time for self care.
8. When adventure calls, I jump. Saying YES to life is awesome.
9. Hearing "NO" is ok.
10. The most valuable lesson I have learned is that we teach others how to treat us; If someone is constantly treating you with less love, respect, and honor than you deserve, it is ultimately because you have given them permission to do so. Take that permission away; sometimes that means you have to walk away. It isn't easy, but baby, YOU ARE WORTH IT. (See 1-9)
How about you? What valuable lessons have you learned this year? Share them; I am sure we can all learn from each other.
The Not--a-Superhero Learning Machine.
Erin Michelle Threlfall
Theatre Artist, Activist, and Educator, Erin is the mother of a budding genius in his 7th year of study. Erin and her little man, Edem, have a plan to investigate world theatre and influence education one continent at a time. Ghana, South Korea, Togo and Bali have been checked off the list of places to live; these days they call Brooklyn home.